Do you feel like your husband is dropping the ball on leading your family? Are you asking the question, “How do I help my husband lead our family?” Well, spoiler alert, you don’t. Here is what you do instead. In this post/video I will share with you what you do instead.
“How Do I Help My Husband Lead Our Family?” was the question that one of my subscribers over on YouTube asked me recently and it’s been on my mind ever since.
The poster of this question spoke of how her husband was a newer Christian, and did not lead her and the children spiritually.
She was frustrated with her husband’s lack of desire to lead in areas, specifically during Bible study times. She mentioned she had been a Christian for longer and that she was ending up leading things like the family Bible studies.
I want to share a very important detail that she shared…She said her husband said that he enjoyed the studies she led, and he was getting something from them and learning.
Another important detail….She also spoke of how the marriage was newer, which I think is important to note.
I happen to have a fair amount of experience in this, so I’m hoping I can help answer this question today for the woman who asked and for others women that are dealing with the same issue.
I’ve been seeing on social media, there are more and more Christians turning attention to the verses in the Bible that pertain to husbands and fathers leading their family, and I think that is great.
One problem I am seeing, however, is for a lot of women, it’s creating intense discontent. I believe it is causing discontent because a lot of people do not understand Biblical leadership, and unfortunately, I see a lot of antiquated, unbiblical assumptions being made about the roles of the husband and wife. I use the words antiquated specifically because some of the assumptions are automatically accepted as Biblical simply because they are old.
As I share today, I want to be direct. I am speaking to wives/women.
There Has Been a Misconstruction
The other day I saw a post that was a perfect example of what I’m saying. It said, “You have the power to raise your husband up. He could be a better leader in his community. He could be better in your home when your lifting him up and when you are encouraging him instead of beating him down for what he’s doing wrong. He will rise to what’s expected of him:” This was actually posted by Focus on the Family.
Simple, right?
Actually, it is not.
This is a teaching that has been in Christian circles for as long as I can remember. It is a concept that I was raised with and walked into marriage with.
I believe this belief and quote is missing a dangerous amount of context, and as it stands the way it is, it is doing more damage than good, and I know because this teaching hurt my marriage for many, many years.
First of all, I want to clarify, the quote is correct in that verbal and emotional abuse in a marriage is a horrible thing. It cuts away at a person’s core, destroys their confidence and does so much damage that can take years to recover from. A wife should be kind and encouraging to her husband and vise versa. A wife does have the power to raise her husband up or beat him down.
Proverbs 14:1 “The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down.”
Proverbs 21:9 “Better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, Than in a house shared with a contentious woman.”
It is sin, to tear anyone down with harsh words. Even with a sinner, it is with love we are supposed to attempt to restore.
Where this quote goes astray in my humble opinion, is in that a wife does not have the power to impart spiritual gifts that are clearly outlined in the Scriptures as coming from God alone. We are going dive deep into that in a bit.
Another point is that we are all responsible before God to do what is right and what is expected of us. This quote as it is worded reminds me of Adam and Even in the garden, when Adam tried to blame his disobedience to God on his wife when God questioned him as to why he ate the forbidden fruit.
In the end, when we are standing before God, it is not going to work for a husband to say, “Well, I could have fulfilled the roles you told me to fulfill with my family, but my wife was mean, so I couldn’t.”
That is not going to fly.
If a husband is not leading, it is not the wife’s fault and it’s time men man up and face that fact, and stop diverting to blaming their wives, and it’s time women stop pretending it’s their responsibility and withing their power to make a leader or a good man out of their husbands. Women, you cannot change your husband.
Another thing though is one danger I’ve seen from beliefs like this quote as it is worded, is that it has created manipulators out of wives.
Think about it. If a wife is pretentiously offering encouragement in the hopes her husband steps into positions of leadership, it is manipulation. He is going to sense the pretentiousness and sense the manipulation. You cannot give praise for things that are not there and true.
What is more, is have not we all seen men don’t take hints? They need direct, clear communication. Less words, the better.
Lastly, I would like to state and then explain that there is more than one kind of leadership, and I firmly believe we have misconstructed the meaning of what Biblical masculinity and leadership is. So, let’s start with some verses.
What Does The Bible Say
First of all, where in the Bible does it specifically tell men to lead? Well, I’ve searched and searched, and I cannot find a verse in the Bible where it specifically say’s, “Husbands, Fathers, lead your family.”
I can find lot’s and lots of verses that speak of the husband as being the head of the home, and that tell wives to be subject to their husbands.
1 Corinthians 11:3
Colossians 3:18
1 Peter 2
But as for a verse that specifically tells husband’s to “Lead their family” I cannot find one.
What I do find is an entire bible full of verses that show all of us, men, women and children, how to lead ourselves, in our own lives.
And, therein, lies the whole point.
We are all, supposed to be looking to Christ as our leader, reading the scriptures, and applying them to ourselves because when it comes right down to it, none of us can make anybody choose do anything. This is called free will. We can try to persuade others, but ultimately choices are theirs and all we can truly control is ourselves.
Yet, we have this belief that Christian men are supposed to lead their wives and families, but do we even know what that means? Do we know what it is supposed to mean? I’m not sure some of us do so let’s clarify this topic.
But first…..
Story Time
Years ago, in the first years of my marriage, I was growing increasingly frustrated with what I saw as my husband’s lack of leadership, and poor leadership. Like the woman that asked the question, “How do I help my husband lead?” I too wondered this.
In my case, my husband became a Christian later in life then I did. So I had been a Christian for around a decade longer almost.
But here we were, me a longer time Christian and he a newer one, and we were newly weds.
Naturally, I thought that on Sabbath days, we would do a Bible reading or study, or something of the sort.
But my new husband didn’t do anything. I didn’t know what to do. “Why isn’t he leading?” I asked myself.
Now I had been taught the above quote all my life. I believed that if a man was not leading, it was the wife’s fault and that it was because she had beat him down, destroyed his confidence, nagged him, and that all she needed to do was sit down, shut up, and offer him lots and lots of praise.
But….here I was. A new wife. I had not beat my husband down. I had not done anything to destroy his confidence. I adored him.
I adored him, but here is the thing. At the same time I wanted him to change. I wanted him to be a seasoned, strong leader, straight out of the shoot. And I thought he was falling on the job because he was not.
I didn’t know what to do, so I consulted with an older woman who I thought was a strong Christian Titus 2 woman. Looking back I know that she was not, she was a legalist (there is a difference). Not only that, she had limited experience in what I was dealing with.
This is a side note addition, but something I’ve learned the hard way in my journey is to be very careful not to seek advice from people that have no experience in what you are dealing with. Some people that are walking exceptionally close with the Holy Spirit will be able to offer good advice without having expereinced a situation, but most people cannot.
As suspected, the person I went to referred to 1 Peter 3:1. “Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;”
So what this meant was that in a situation like this, I could ask my husband to lead Bible studies on our Sabbath day, but that I should defer to simply praying about it if he didn’t.
Applying this verse to this situation did two things that were not pretty. The first one is it led me to believe my husband was in grave error by not taking initiative to arrange a Bible study every Sabbath. Secondly, it made me believe it was my responsibility to pray to make him change.
So that’s what I did. I asked him, and he did a couple times. But then it waned off. I didn’t want to be a contentious wife, so from there, I said nothing. I began to pray over it. Months went by. Nothing changed. A year went by. We now had a child. Nothing changed.
What a heavy, heavy burden that was that I was carrying.
A year in I remember going into the bathroom one Sunday, shutting the door behind me, and I started crying silent tears in so much anger. God was not listening to my prayers, or so I thought.
Now my husband will tell you he dropped the ball. I agree. He did.
But here was the thing, you can’t do something you don’t know how to do.
There were multiple reasons my husband did not step up to the plate I wanted him to in leading our family spiritually.
One of them was he was young. He didn’t know how yet.
But in addition to that, we were dirt poor. My husband was and still is the primary provider. Back then, we were just getting started and we lived in poverty, like many new young couples. My husbands primary concern was processing how much more having a family cost him then being single, and he was concerned with how he was going to provide for us, and how he would get ahead enough to provide a home for us as we did not have one. So work and providing was at the forefront of his mind.
It stayed at the forefront of his mind for many years.
I think we need to sit with this for a moment….It is very easy to say, “seek first the kingdom of God and all these things will be added to you.” It is another to live it. It takes practice to learn how to seek God first when you live paycheck to paycheck because you know if you stop working you won’t be able to pay the bills and then what? Utilities gets turned off and you get kicked out.
For a man who feels it is his responsibility to provide for his family, and for a man who wants to be the sole provider, this is a heavy, heavy load. It is very difficult for a man who is working full time to unplug from that, and plug into leading his family because in order to do this he needs to be at least somewhat aware of the intricacies of the home, wife and kids.
If he is not there, he is at work, and that is where his mind is. I will address this more in depth in a bit.
Here is another thing. Some of us are not afraid to try new things, we are not afraid to make mistakes and learn as we go.
Some of us, however, are not like that. Some people like to have the pieces in place before they proceed. We call those people “perfectionists”.
There is more though, some people grew up in spiritually abusive circles or families and are afraid of abusing others the way they were abused. Some grew up with toxic, macho, dictatorship masculinity, a type of masculinity that took no account of others. Men that grew up like this and turned out to be good men are afraid of making the same mistakes. They don’t want to chance making the people they love the most, their wives and children, feel the way they were made to, and they don’t want to chase them away from Christ. So sometimes, they are immobilized because they don’t know what to do and they don’t want to mess it up.
In situations like this, it can take time for people to make sense of up from down when it comes to the Bible, and God. They are not going to sit down and tell everyone the way it is when they are still trying to figure it out for themselves.
So back to my situation.
For us, more years went by where my husband wasn’t leading in the way I thought a husband and father should. It was always just like a burr under the saddle in our marriage. Several years into our marriage, this issue even began causing arguments as I felt like my husband was not fulfilling his leadership duties.
Then, one day I realized some things that led to me realizing more things that changed my entire perspective.
There Are Different Types of Leadership
One of the first things I ended up noticing, was my husband was faithful to the Lord. When my faith in the Lord would waver and I would worry that hardships meant God forgot us, my husband’s never did. He remained always steady, with unwavering faith while I was up, down, left right, and jack batty.
I also noticed my husband was and steady, and extremely hard working, working more than one job many years. Every day, he would get up early, go to work every single day, even when he really didn’t like his jobs, even when he was sick, and he would always come home. Bills were always paid, and paid on time.
One day, I realized the spiritual drive and strength it takes to do this every single day, especially when you don’t like your job but are stuck in it. Meanwhile, he was trying to get a new business off the ground to help our family, too.
In my particular case, my husband was doing all this while living with chronic pain, you see, my husband started logging for his dad’s business when he was just 13. By the time he was 27 he had had multiple injuries and lived with pain daily.
It began to dawn on me, my husband’s load was as full as he could handle. I did not see this at the time, but the truth was, my husband was leading by example.
The Servant Leader
As I was gathering the verses for this I came across an article that I appreciated so much. Coincidentally, the article was an older one by Focus on the Family. The article was good,
How does a spiritual servant-leader act?
Jesus put it this way:
You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their great ones exercise authority over them. It shall not be so among you. But whoever would be great among you must be your servant, and whoever would be first among you must be your slave, even as the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many. (Matthew 20:25-28)
With that in mind, a husband who wants to fulfill the high calling of spiritual servant-leadership should develop these qualities:
- He imitates Christ. He must have a strong connection with his Heavenly Father. He finds his happiness in Christ above all else. He knows that he can lead effectively only if he keeps an intimate relationship with the Lord.
- He’s ready to protect, help, and defend. No matter what happens, he won’t hesitate to lay down his life for the people God has entrusted to his care.
- He has integrity. He provides physical support, grace, and encouragement. He balances his commitments. He makes every effort to be the safest, wisest, and most respected man his family has ever known.
- He looks for ways to help each family member grow in their relationship with God. He pays attention to and nurtures his family’s mental, emotional, and spiritual health.
- He takes proactive steps. He looks for potential challenges to his wife’s and children’s well-being, and he finds solutions.
I WOULD LIKE TO INSERT SOMETHING HERE. Husbands are only human. They do and will make mistakes, Just like you will. NEW HUSBANDS will usually make more mistakes. They NEED TIME TO GROW INTO especially into the last two. ALL HUSBANDS CANNOT FIND SOLUTIONS TO PROBLEMS THEY DON’T KNOW EXIST, ANd MOST HUSBANDS NEED TIME TO PONDER FOR SOLUTIONS TO PROBLEMS.
IN MY MARRIAGE, I LOOSE PATIENCE QUICKLY. You see, I was born a natural leader. I’ll talk more about the gift of leadership in the sense we often think of it in a moment, but BEING A NATURAL BORN LEADER I’M PRETTY QUICK TO COME UP WITH SOLUTIONs. THEY MAY NOT BE THE BEST SOLUTIONS, BUT THEY ARE SOLUTIONS. My husband is the opposite. He notices all the little details because he takes time to. That is the thing though, he takes time which takes time. We have a lighthearted joke in our family because I’m always on time, my husband is often times late.
Since I am a natural leader, and since my husband trusts me, I don’t take many problems to my husband because I already know what to do.
But one of the problems we have is that when I don’t have a solution, I get irritated, I bring the problem to my husband since I couldn’t figure out what to do I’m already irritated. I’ often make the mistake that maybe some of you do to, where I’m like I need you to figure this out, like 5 minutes ago, or yesterday! Like, where have you been!
Then I expect my husband to know what to do do without even giving him time to pray about it. My husband seldome has a solution of the top of his head because unlike me, he is detail oriented. So I wait because he needs to think about it. Often then, my husband has to then go to work, where he gets distracted with the little thing of providing for our family and paying the bills, and he forgets about the problem, and I need to bring it up again.
It is a dance of patience! If your man works full time it probably is going to be for you as well. It’s so important to realize men don’t think like women. We can quickly file through 20 things in our minds over the course of a minute, but men usually focus on one thing and its usually the thing they are in the process of working on in the moment.
To Each God Has Gifted
I would like to share what I believe the Lord revealed to me next in my journey with my husband when it pertains to leadership.
1 Peter 4:10–11
As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another, as good stewards of God’s varied grace: whoever speaks, as one who speaks oracles of God; whoever serves, as one who serves by the strength that God supplies—in order that in everything God may be glorified through Jesus Christ. To him belong glory and dominion forever and ever. Amen.
Romans 12:3–8
“3 For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned. 4 For jas in one body we have many members,5 and the members do not all have the same function, 5 so we, though many, lare one body in Christ, and individually members one of another. 6 nHaving gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, let us use them: if prophecy, pin proportion to our faith; 7 if qservice, in our serving; the one who teaches, in his teaching; 8 the one who exhorts, in his exhortation; the one who contributes, in generosity; rthe one who leads,6 with zeal; the one who does acts of mercy, with cheerfulness.”
Proverbs 31:11, “The heart of her husband trusts in her confidently and relies on and believes in her securely, so that he has no lack of honest gain or need of dishonest spoil.”
Genesis 2:18 “Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”
Okay, we are going to come back around to all of these verses but first I want to define leadership in the context of Romans 12.
What Is Leadership?
In Romans 12, it very clearly states that we are all members of each other in the Body of Christ. It says that we have all been given gifts. It also says that none of us are better than the other for the gifts we have received, and we are not supposed to think more highly of ourselves for the gifts we have received because we are not supposed to all function the same.
In verse 8, we can see that to some the gift of leadership has been given. In this context, if you look up the original word in the Strongs concordance it means,
To lead, to manage, to rule, to care for
It seems there are a lot of people that believe that God only gives certain gifts to men and certain ones to women. We have associated gifts such as serving with women only. And we have equated gifts such as leadership, teaching, and prophecy only with men.
According to this passage in Romans, this isn’t the way it works. The concept of all men being blessed with the ability to lead in the same way is not Biblical. The Bible does not say God only gave specific gifts to specific genders.
Have you ever heard the stories about the people who were messing around mixing cleaning products and ended up with something quite dangerous? I once heard a story about a person who mixed peroxide with bleach in the toilet, and the result was toxic fumes, so they quickly decided to flush the toilet thinking that would make the problem go away.
It did not. The toilet exploded.
I think that is what we have going on here.
With this concept it seems to me like for decades we have had a misconception of what true Biblical leadership is. It is as if we have a blender, and we’ve thrown a few Bible verses into it pertaining to a Godly husband wife and home structure, but then we have thrown personality traits and opinions into the mix, which is generally dangerous, and we’ve blended it all up together and what we have is a strange, unrecognizable blended mess.
I think that is what we have done when it comes to the topic of true, Biblical leadership. But to make matters worse we’ve taken it a step further.
We have even thrown a negative trait into this confusing concoction: the negative trait is dictatorship.
Dictatorship and leadership are not the same things.
With dictatorship you have someone behind, demanding, pushing, not paying attention to what is happening. With leadership, you have someone slightly in front, attentive, guiding.
And here is the thing. People lead in different ways. As I pointed out in the beginning, the scriptures are full of verses commanding us to lead, but we are to lead our selves.
Here is another thing many people don’t realize. Some men really good at seeing where they are gifted and where they are not, and where their wives are gifted and where they are not, and they are wise enough to give her the reigns with what she is gifted in and say, “yeah, I’ll let you have that because there’s no way I can do that as well”. This is simply good management, and is in now way a lack of leadership.
If a man chooses to let his wife lead in some area’s it does not mean he is not the head of the home. It means he’s actually a really good head of the home and know’s how to manage his home in the most efficient ways.
Not always this is the case. Sometimes it does just mean he’s lazy brained. But it takes prayer and discernment to tell the difference. I’ll will address this later.
For anybody asking the question of, “why doesn’t my husband lead”, let me point something out. There are only two reasons you can see your husband isn’t leading. One is because you are either expecting him to lead in ways you are supposed to lead your self, or because you have the gift of leadership in a way he does not and you are expecting him to lead the way you would in your gift. If you did not contain the gifting in leadership, you wouldn’t notice that there are areas your husband isn’t leading.
Now let me ask you this. Is it possible God matched you with your husband because God expected you to use your gifts and insights to help your husband as his helper? Is it possible he put you two together to compliment each other and complete each other? Genesis 2:18, Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”
1 Corinthians 12:15-26
I want to insert another perspective with this verse.
15 Now if the foot should say, “Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason stop being part of the body. 16 And if the ear should say, “Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason stop being part of the body. 17 If the whole body were an eye, where would the sense of hearing be? If the whole body were an ear, where would the sense of smell be? 18 But in fact God has placed the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be. 19 If they were all one part, where would the body be? 20 As it is, there are many parts, but one body.
21 The eye cannot say to the hand, “I don’t need you!” And the head cannot say to the feet, “I don’t need you!” 22 On the contrary, those parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, 23 and the parts that we think are less honorable we treat with special honor. And the parts that are unpresentable are treated with special modesty, 24 while our presentable parts need no special treatment. But God has put the body together, giving greater honor to the parts that lacked it, 25 so that there should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other. 26 If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.
This is what I believe. I truly believe that God puts together people in a marriage that have gifts the other doesn’t have because He wants you to learn to work together in perfect harmony.
Just because you lead in some area’s doesn’t mean that your husband isn’t the head of your family. And it doesn’t mean he’s not leading.
Here is one thing to consider as well. If your husband appears to be not leading, it might just mean your husband as a full plate and he trusts you. Proverbs 31:11, “The heart of her husband trusts in her confidently and relies on and believes in her securely, so that he has no lack of honest gain or need of dishonest spoil.”
If you husband trusts you this way, what a blessing! You have the opportunity to grow and blossom and bless your husband and family in all the ways God created you to using the gifts God gave you!
But Perhaps you are comparing yourself to the wife who has a husband who has the gift of leadership. The wife is able to sit back, take the side seat, and use her gifts to complement his dreams and goals.
Or, perhaps you are comparing your husband to another who is a dictator and wishing for that because you don’t understand healthy leadership.
The problems here is is you are using toxic comparison. Comparing is always going to leave us lacking.
Regardless, you would probably never even notice a lack if God had not given you an eye for leadership. So if God gave you the gift of leadership then most likely you would clash if your husband also had a strong gift of leadership drive or was a dictator type.
There would be a lot of butting heads and or you would not feel fulfilled as you constantly had to step aside for your husband.
Christ was our perfect example of leadership here on earth, and he led as a servant leader, not as a dictator.
But I Want Him To Take Initiative
I understand that still, we do want husbands that will take initiative. We do want husbands that will fulfill their duties as outlined it scripture such as teaching our children. It is critical that children hear their fathers preach and teach the word of God. We don’t want our husbands to be lazy.
So how do we help our husbands do this if they are not natural teachers or leaders? How do we help them if they are lazy?
The first step is to identify why they are not. Is it because they don’t know how?
Is it because they are afraid of trying and messing up, and the result being having kids that want nothing to do with Christ?
Or is it because they are ungodly or lazy and don’t care to?
If it is the latter, this is a situation where we do apply 1 Peter 3:1 and pray, but I don’t believe we should wait indefinitely. If there is no change, I do firmly believe marriage counseling with a Christian mentor is going to be needed. Your husband needs saving. By the way, if he is ungodly and needs saving, thank God he’s dropping the ball in leading.
But, if it is because he is afraid of messing it all up, or he doesn’t know how, that is another matter. Again, we need to go back to first accepting he is where he is, and we need to acknowledge and appreciate the gifts God has given him, and not look down on him because we think he’s being a foot and we the hand. We also need to acknowledge he was this way before we married him and it didn’t bother us before.
Secondly, if we clearly have the gift of leadership in an area, and see a path we know the family needs to explore, there are things we can and should do as our husbands help meet and as Christians.
There is nothing wrong with a woman leading a family Bible study in her own home. Now I will bring up 1 Corinthians 14:34 because I know some of the legalists out there are going to say, what about 1 Corinthians 14:34-35
Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law. And if they will learn anything, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church.
First of all, this is pertaining to women in Church. Not in their home.
Now you are going to say, “But what about 1 Timothy 2:12?”
And I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man, but to be in silence.
Once again, I believe the context of the passage of 1 Timothy 2 is teaching about behavior in church, it is not speaking of logistics in the home.
What is more, is we need to sensible. There are some things men can not and should not teach, and that it would be unfit for them to teach. Context is important, you see!
Two more things I would like to point out though is it is diabolically unfair to expect anyone to do something they do not know how to do and we talked about this.
Another thing I would like to point out, is if your husband and the father of your children is at work all week, he isn’t going to be intune with what goes on in the day around the home. There will be times you are going to be able to come up with more on point and utilizable Bible study topics for the family than you will for that reason.
But, I venture to say, if your husband doesn’t know how to lead a Bible study and you do, after your husband see’s how to lead a family Bible study a few times, he will get the idea. If he is a newer Christian though, it is going to take time. As he grows in the Lord he will get there.
Here is the tricky part. If you are further ahead in your journey as a Christian, you must not look down on your husband’s newness in the Lord. You need to be patient with him because God is. You need to remember God gave you your husband and he gave your husband you! You are in this together.
Just because you are better or stronger in some areas does not mean he is not the head.
So after you kindly lead a Bible study a few times, you might try saying, “Hunny, would you do a study today while I make lunch or snacks in the kitchen?”
Here is the hard part, and here is where the quote that I started this out with does apply. He might not be very good at it at first. You will need to let him learn as he goes and not interfere. Praise him as he figures it out too. Don’t do it unless you really mean it, though because if you are pretentious, he will know, and that will be embarrassing for him.
You also pray for him.
Final Thoughts
One of the signs of a truly great leader, is in the leaders ability to see the gifts in people, and allow them to blossom and operate in those gifts without having to be micro managed.
The gift of leadership can look different among individuals, and just because a wife leads in some area’s does not mean that her husband is not the head of the home. God still see’s a husband as the head regardless of the wife’s activities or actions. Nothing the wife can do will change the fact that the husband is the head of the home.
To the wives who wish their husbands would lead Bible studies in the home, chances are, all you have to do is ask him to. When he does, be sure to let him know you appreciate it and him.
Remember, we are to live patiently with each other as none of us are perfect and we all have a long way to go.